I heard a powerful testimony this morning in my devotional time that I believe is worth passing along. My heart goes out to single mom’s but I really can’t speak to what that’s like. I do however, have a friend of mine and co-laborer in Christ, who can. Her name is Jennifer Maggio. She and her husband, Jeff, are friends of mine and really have a heart for equipping and empower single mom’s. You will want to frequently visit her web site The Life of a Single Mom and listen to her testimony that was recently on the Carolyn Gable Radio Show. It is phenomenal. My prayer is that you would be encouraged and know that God is for YOU!
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the life of a single mom
This past Saturday was TREMENDOUS! I had many of my family, friends, and co-workers over for food and fellowship. There was a little something for everybody. We boiled over 150 lbs of crawfish, 8 dozen crabs, grilled 10 lbs of hamburgers, 30 hot dogs, and topped it off with homemade ice cream.
We had so much food that we didn’t even get to the shrimp. The weather was perfect, the food was great, and the atmosphere was one of genuine community. To be honest with you that’s what I was aiming for … an environment where community could be developed and cultivated. Don’t get me wrong, I love “mud bugs” as much as anyone, but I wanted to capture an environment where people could connect, flourish, and move towards wholeness.
If I’m to lean forward in life, if I want to move in the direction of the person I want to become, then I have to posture my life in such a way that I’m constantly learning and growing. That means that I surround myself with people that are more experienced than me, people that have traveled further than me, and people that will not tell me what I want to hear. The Apostle Paul said, “Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character.” 1 Co 15:33(AMP) I wonder if some of the people/environments we’re associated with are conducive to growth or do they corrupt good character?
There is a story in Luke 2, where Mary and Joseph have lost Jesus for three days, and upon returning to Jerusalem they find Him in the Temple listening and conversing with the teachers. Then it says that they, Mary/Joseph, were upset with Him. Jesus, responds to His parents by saying, “didn’t you know that I had to be about my Father’s business?” In other words, Jesus said, you know who I am, and as such you knew where to find me. The temple is the first place you should have looked.
Jesus is teaching us that we go where our heart longs to be. Where we are informs us and others as to who we are. So where is it that you long to be? Who do you long to be with? Do your answers move you closer to God or further away?
You can see all the pictures from the crawfish boil on my Facebook page.
I don’t wanna
This past weekend I was suppose to have my 5 year old nephew with me. We had big plans, but my buddy was running a low grade fever and couldn’t make it. Needless to say, we both were disappointed. I love that little guy. I’ve never seen such a happy kid, and he’s constantly making me laugh. Ladies, beware he’s a big flirt too. He’s constantly telling the ladies that he loves their pretty red lips. Did I mention that he’s my Tyger buddy too. In fact every time I’ve taken him to a LSU game, we’ve won. He’ll tell you real quick that Coach Miles is his friend. ![]()
My mom says that he reminds her of me when I was that age, especially when we ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do. I don’t remember ever doing this
, but when we ask Connor to do something that he doesn’t want to he looks at us with this sad face (lips poked out), shaking his head and with a childlike voice says, “I don’t wanna.”
When it comes to growing and maturing in our faith, God will ask us to do things that are uncomfortable and difficult. I just wonder how many times we respond with “I don’t wanna”? God doesn’t demand our obedience because He wants to control, manipulate, and deprive us of things. He knows that obedience doesn’t bring restriction, it brings freedom. Being a follower of Christ is not about keeping a bunch of rituals or rules, it’s about becoming alive. He knows that on the other side of that decision to forgive lies freedom, restoration, and wholeness. When we choose to die to our flesh so that others can move forward and Christ can be exalted; our spirit man comes alive and intimacy with God deepens. Our response to His call will affect not just us but EVERY relationship that we are connected to. As we say yes to Him and no to ourselves (it’s not about being right), we move closer to Him and our relationships begin to flourish. When we tell God, “I don’t wanna”, what we’re really saying is that we are content with where we are and have no need to move forward, or to be free.
Being free means that I must I die to my bitterness, my resentment, and my “being right”. I’m afraid that in American Christianity, Jesus is the only one doing the dying. A.W. Tozer said it this way, “Among the plastic saints of our times, Jesus has to do all the dying, and all we want to hear is another sermon
about his dying.” God is not listening to our excuses. He just wants us to act on what He’s already spoken to us. Christine Cain, from Hillsong Church in Australia said it this way, “You cannot afford to REASON with what God has called you to do. You will rationalize yourself out of it. You simply have to step out of the boat and DO IT!! We have to move from “I don’t wanna” to “I’ll do whatever.”
go unless you get a no
I’m so excited I can hardly stand it. I have been glowing all week long! On Monday of last week, I received the keys to our 28 bed men’s home here in Baton Rouge. we’re calling it My Father’s House. It’s in a GREAT location, surrounded by numerous employment opportunities, and for the most part it’s in pretty good shape. This facility will give men returning from prison, those desiring a healthier and safer environment to live in, and those that are
just homeless to get back on their feet and live the life they were intended to live. We have been praying for almost three years for this very thing – and now its here! Taking on a project of this magnitude is not easy and to be honest with you
there are a lot of unanswered questions. Where will the labor and money originate from so that the house can be filled to capacity? Who will monitor it? Will they be paid, if so where will the funds come from? What if it doesn’t fill up, how will the bills get paid? I could just go on and on. So many questions and very few answers.
My favorite story in the Scriptures is found in 1 Samuel 14. Jonathan and his armor bearer pick a fight with the Philistines and their 30,000 chariots, 6,000 horsemen, and people as numerous as the seashore. Not exactly the best odds! My favorite verse in this story is verse 6, Jonathan says, “come let us cross over and perhaps the Lord will bless us.” Did you catch that? PERHAPS the Lord will bless us. This is not one of those Scriptures that will make it on a T-shirt or a magnet you can put on a refrigerator. In layman’s terms this is what he says, “let’s go pick a fight; God may or may not show up.” Jonathan realizes that the future of the entire nation of Israel is at stake and their leader (Saul) is asleep under a pomegranate tree and his men are hiding in caves. Jonathan realizes that something has to be done. He doesn’t have all the answers, he’s not sure what the outcome will be, and his strategy leaves a lot to be desired, but if he doesn’t do something an entire nation will be lost. Long story short, Jonathan and his armor attack, God sends and earthquake and Israel is delivered.
So many times we’re looking for a sign. We want God to do something miraculous to confirm or deny what it is we’re suppose to do. God doesn’t always work like that. Most of the time the information we desire from God comes only after we’ve shown initiation. We know the Scripture, “without faith it’s impossible to please God”; yet, in the next breath we ask God for a sign. Where is the faith in that?
… perhaps the Lord will bless us.
Chances are God has placed something on your heart, that He’s called you to do, but you’ve been waiting for Him to take His finger and write the answer in the sky. Can I tell you, you are going to be waiting for a long time, and a lot of people are going to suffer. Too many times we’re like Saul, we’re just waiting for a sign, and really we should be like Jonathan, we have to do something. Erwin McManus, in his book Chasing Daylight, writes, “Do what you know you should do and you will know what to do. God clarifies in the midst of obedience not beforehand.”
There are still a lot of things that we don’t know about our men’s home. I do know that Louisiana has the recidivism rate of any state in the Union. I know that men are being released from prison with no where to go, every night people are sleeping under bridges, and they have no hope for the future which doesn’t boast well for our communities. When it come’s to My Father’s House, we’re going to try some things and they’re not going to work, we’re going to make mistakes, but we had to do something! The church for too long has been much like Saul, asleep under a pomegranate tree. Stop looking for signs and just go unless you get a no! God will give you the information you desire once there is initiation.
Jesus was no mathematician
In 2007, I had the opportunity to visit the Creation Museum just outside Cincinnati, OH. One word could describe the work that Ken Ham, President and CEO of Answers in Genesis, put into this project … AMAZING! Every exhibit left me speechless. Through the use of 3-D models and various technological visuals, the museum traced the beginning of creation all the way through to the resurrection of Christ. Everything from the birds, the waters, the plants, the creatures, the oceans, sun, the moon it was all so real. I began to see myself as though I was actually there, when it all began. I could see in my mind’s eye how everything in creation was good, interconnected, and in harmony.
Since that first day, God has been talking to us about interconnectedness and relationship. In fact, relationship was on His heart even before Adam and Eve came on the scene. Some of you know that I have a fear of heights. Some of you reading this have a phobia as well. I don’t know maybe a fear of enclosed spaces, a fear of spiders, a fear of germs, but what should terrify us is the fact that we exist on a planet that’s dangling in space. In the very beginning, when God created the sun, the moon, and the solar system, amongst all that, He positioned earth in perfect relationship with everything else in the cosmos so that life could exist. I’ve been told that if the earth moves a little closer to the sun then we burn, and if earth moves a little further away from the sun we freeze. The universe is a picture of the unifying theme of everything God created and that’s relationship.
God repeatedly uses the word good to describe what He created. In fact, in Genesis 1 the word good is used 7 times, in Genesis 2 the word is used 5 times, in
Genesis 3 the is used three times, by Genesis 4 the word good is gone. For the next 10 chapters, nothing is described as good. The word good disappears out of the context of the fall with Adam and Eve. We see a mirror image in the life of their son, Cain. What Adam, Eve, and Cain failed to realize is that there was an interconnectedness first with their Creator and then with one another. When they severed their relationship with God, they severed their relationship with each other. In the 10 Commandments,
we see this idea of relationship and interconnectedness. The first six commandments deal with our relationship with God and the remaining four address how we are to relate to one another. God is telling us that He counts nothing more significant than the way we treat one another.
This is not just in the Old Testament. There’s an event in the New Testament where Jesus is tested by a lawyer who wants to know what is the greatest commandment. Jesus of course responds with “love the Lord your God with your whole being and the second is like that love your neighbor as yourself”. At first glance you might think that Jesus didn’t fully understand the question or maybe Jesus just wasn’t good at math. I mean the guy asked for one commandment and Jesus gave him two. It wasn’t that that Jesus was not a mathematician and its not that He didn’t understand the question. Jesus’ problem was that He couldn’t separate the two. He knew that the unifying principle of the universe was relationship. First with God and out of that with one another. Jesus knew that our relationship to God has a direct correlation to how we treat people. In fact, the way we treat people is the only evidence that we’ve connected with God. When you connect heart to heart with God, it changes your value for people, it changes your relationship to people. You don’t look at what you can get out of them but what you can contribute for their good.
our relationship to God has a direct correlation to how we treat people.
If our relationships, in whatever capacity, are not positioned in such a way so that they can flourish and produce life, then maybe we too (like Adam, Eve, and Cain) have failed to realize that there is an interconnectedness between our relationship with God and our relationship with others. Only when we connect to God first, will our relationships with the rest of humanity be fulfilling and meaningful. Until then, we’ll be exhausted mentally, spiritually, and physically.
life lesson through a 7 year old
My sister and her three kids were with me last week for Spring Break. We had a blast. Someone asked me, “What did we do?” I guess the more appropriate question is what didn’t we do? We went to the park (huge mud hole), fished, had movie night EVERY night, went swimming, visited the zoo, had a BBQ, played baseball, football. We did it all. All three are different in their own respect. If you were to ask them what activity they enjoyed the most, Connor, the middle child, would tell you he liked the park, Rachel, the youngest, she loves
animals, and would tell you she liked the zoo. Emily, the oldest, well she’s would tell you that she enjoyed something that didn’t even make “my list”. Emily is a reader. I have never met anyone that loves to read a
s much as she does. She likes it when you read to her, but she especially likes to be the one doing the reading. One night she offered to read a story out of the Bible to me. She picked up my Bible, opened it up, and arbitrarily (you know how that works right) began reading the story of the persistent widow in Luke 18.
She struggled pronouncing some of the words but God didn’t. He spoke very clearly to me through my 7 year old niece. When she read the words, “Then He (Jesus) spoke a parable to them, that men always ought to pray and not lose heart“, I received an instantaneous spiritual zap. In my mind, I hit the pause button. She just read something that I needed to be reminded of … all of life, even a life in God doesn’t come easy, and I must be persistent in our prayers. Jesus didn’t say just to pray always, He also said not to lose heart. When we stop believing, we stop praying, and when we stop praying, we lose heart.
If that wasn’t enough, the parable ends with “when the Son of Man comes, will He really find faith on the earth?“ I asked myself, under my breath of course, when God looks down from Heaven at me, will He find faith in me?” The answer of course lies in whether or not I’ve lost heart. If I’m not willing to press on despite what life throws at me, the answer is no! I can give excuse after excuse but I cannot be filled with hopelessness and faith simultaneously.
Jim Valvano, the former North Carolina State basketball coach, was diagnosed with bone cancer in 1993. Shortly before his death, he spoke at the inaugural ESPY Awards, presented by ESPN. While accepting an award, he announced the creation of the “V Foundation“, an organization dedicated to finding a cure for cancer. He announced that the foundation’s motto would be “Don’t give up. Don’t ever give up. What an attitude in the face of life threatening adversity.
Giving up is too easy, and it means sitting by unresponsive or retreating. God is always calling us to lean forward. That’s why God never calls us to give up. He wants us to take Him at His Word, to believe that He is who He said He is and that He will do what He said He will do. It’s easy to believe when everything is going well; it’s much more difficult when the answers to life’s toughest questions seem aloof. Whether or not God is looking is not the question, the question is what will He find in us? If we don’t give up; He will find faith on the earth. If God is looking for something, I want Him to find it in me!
interview with Satan
Next month, we will begin year four of our Prisoner Reentry Initiative work. I’ve witnessed a lot of change in many of the people we’ve helped. Families coming back together, marriages healed and restored, men/women set free from drugs and alcohol, mind sets of depression and hopelessness eradicated. The staff and I have worked very hard to be intentional about what we do, and to speak life and hope in what was the most barren of hearts. I get very excited when I see clients leaving their past and embracing the future that God has for them. However, I think my greatest joy has been working along side other churches, agencies, ministries, and organizations all over Louisiana that have a like minded passion. We could not have the success that we’ve had unless others were involved. I do realize this has not always been the case in “Christian circles”.
Sometimes I wonder why is it that so many “people of faith” can’t get along with one another and work side by side with each other? Why the need to be territorially? Perhaps the church down the road doesn’t do things exactly the way we do, but does that mean that they’re wrong and we’re right? Churches and denominations split over some of the most infantile things. The truth is that the people that worship “over there” are not your enemy, but the enemy will use “those people” to attempt to divide God’s people and thus leaving the Great Commission unfulfilled. I’ve posted a humorous video from Craig Groeschel of lifechurch.tv that really drives home this point of the tactics the adversary uses to divide the Body of Christ.
This an entertaining approach to a very serious problem. I would imagine that most of us would agree on 95%, it’s the 5% that keeps us apart and ineffective. If we could just put aside our differences, and move forward in what we agree on there’s no telling how many lives would be impacted for the Kingdom. It can be done. I see it everyday, Baptist, Methodist, non-denominational, independent ministries all coming together as one, to find real solutions to real problems. That really is the Lord’s prayer … that we are one. We quote Matthew 6 and call it the Lord’s prayer, but really Jesus’ prayer before He went to the cross was in John 17, “Father make them one as you and I are one”. With our economy headed the way it is, and people hurting, this is a tremendous opportunity for the church to step up and step out, and make a difference for the cause of Christ. Let’s seize this moment. Eternity hangs in the balance.
When I go and speak to the inmates at the various prisons, their needs are so numerous that I hardly ever talk about the same topic, but I clearly have one goal in in mind … I want them to ALL
to “experience the life that comes in God”. At HPC, we use the phrase “living the life that God intended” quite often. The last couple of weeks I’ve been thinking about those two phrases and asking myself, what does a life in God look like? I want to say up front that most of my life, I have not experienced that “sweet spot” in God. Just within the last 4-5 years have I begun to live out my life with purpose and passion. What this life looks like to me is in no way THE cookie cutter model for everyone. It is in fact filtered through my eyes and my life experiences. These are my thoughts and I wanted to share them with you.
I guess it would be easier to define what a life in God does not look like. I don’t think its what I see every time I turn on the television and hear this “prosperity” gospel. Do I believe God wants us to
prosper, you better believe it, but I believe He wants us to prosper more so spiritually in our relationship with Him. I don’t believe that Christ came to earth and died a brutal de
ath just so that you and I could go to heaven, but at the same time it’s never been about wealth. I don’t believe that a life in God comes without pain, disappointment, and heartache. God is not sadistic by any means, but life is not always ho hum. Besides, most of the pain and suffering we go through here on earth is because of sin and the choices we make. Even those who love and serve God, still experience difficulty. Yet, God is bigger and better than my worst day.
All my life I was taught that if I was in the center of God’s will that I could find safety and protection. When I read the Scriptures, I don’t see that at all. I see Joseph falsely accused and incarcerated. I see John the Baptist being beheaded. I see Stephen being stoned. I see Paul being beaten and shipwrecked. I see Jesus hanging from a cross. These events don’t speak of safety and protection to me. They do however, speak of love, a sacrificial love for the God that first love them. I don’t think that a life in God is filled with a bunch of rules, denominations, and mandates. When I first came to Christ, I was told that there were certain things that I had to do and there were things that I couldn’t do. I now know that’s called legalism. If that’s what Christianity is about then it’s really no different from Islam
or any other world religion. That’s what Islam teaches, that you have to do certain things and abstain from certain things in order to gain God’s approval. Islam, at it’s core it’s legalistic and fatalistic. That’s not what I see Jesus teaching. Instead, I see Him consistently teaching us to love the Lord your God with everything within you and loving your neighbor as yourself. Yes, the Scriptures speak of obedience, but that obedience is initiated out love for the One that created us and sent His son to rescue us from our sins. The Scriptures speak of holiness but why does holiness have to be defined by the things that we separate ourselves from? Can’t we define holiness by the things we attach ourselves
to? I mean, when a person connects heart to heart with God, you don’t have to tell them what they can and cannot do. There will be a real change, change from the inside out.
When I think about a life that comes in God, I think about the place in the apostle Paul’s life when he said, that he was torn between departing this world and being with Christ or remaining here to continue the work of the ministry. At that very moment, Paul defined what it meant to live the life that comes in God. What does a life in God look like … very simply it’s defined as one who loves to live and lives to love. It means being connected to the heart of God and out of that flows our love for humanity. You will know when you have connected with the heart of God, when He has captured yours.
how long have you been down?
Thursday morning I had a chance to go to LCIW (Louisiana Correctional Institute for Women). I always enjoy listening to the stories of these ladies. To be honest with you, when I leave there it’s a real emotional roller coaster for me. It hurts! It hurts my brain to think about how they got here, but I have to think about it, because it’s too heavy for my heart not to think about it.
One of things that has struck me about working with offenders is their vernacular. It’s like they have their own prison language. They are quick to tell you that they, “caught a charge”, or “I’m on papers for another 10 months”. One lady at LCIW today told me, “how long and how many times she had “been down”. That’s inmate talk for the number times and length of stay someone spends inside a correctional facility. When I heard those words, “I’ve been down”, I realized that was the posture of her mind set and the condition of her heart. Unfortunately, unless there is some type of intervention, she will bring that mind set with her into society once she is released.
Our words reveal a lot of things about us and our belief system. If we speak something long enough, we’ll begin to believe it. Many of these offenders that I work with are setting themselves up for failure, even before they are released. They fail not because of a lack of opportunities or resources, but because of the way they feel and think about themselves.
I wonder how many of us are guilty of the same thing? How many times have we spoken death over our relationships, finances, children, or circumstances? “I can’t do this or I can’t do that. There’s no hope for me.” When we speak these words over our own lives, and the lives of our family members, or our circumstances, we too have set ourselves up for failure. Words are powerful. They can bring blessing or cursing, life or death. There is power in the tongue! Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose. Proverbs 18:21
my morning with the Dr.
This morning I spent a couple of hours with the doctor. This was no ordinary visit to the doctor ‘
s office though. I spent a couple of hours with Jason Laird, aka Dr. Tweez. Jason is a very good friend of mine and the youth pastor at Healing Place Church. I have always had the utmost respect for Jason. When I think about him, the first word that comes to mind is legit! He’s the real deal … loves God and loves people and walks it out. Jason has a powerful testimony that I wanted the men inside parish prison hear. Jason, on more than one occasion, has been incarcerated at parish prison. It’s was really neat for him to come back, completely transformed, and stand before those men and tell them God loves them, has a plan and a future for their life. He told them not to put their significance is “stuff”; rather their identity is in Christ.
Tweez brought Steve Ware along with him. Steve was a voluntary chaplain at Angola State Penitentiary for 10 months. He really encouraged the men that God was circling their boat, if they could only stop fighting the wind and waves long enough to see Him. All they had to do was call out to Him.
I love Tuesday’s mornings anyway, but today was really special for me. As we left that cell block this morning, I could see the encouragement and hope in the eyes of the men. I really believe that many of them are going to make it!! That’s a win for EVERYONE!

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